Does my 5yr old have ADD or ADHD? If so, what to do and where to go from here?
My little boy has always been “difficult” to cope with. Even to the point of no-one wanting to babysit him or even visit very often. When he was a toddler he would have ‘turns’ where he would wake from a nap and fly into a screaming rage for no good reason. He would even bash his head against the walls and floor! Eventually I discovered that altering his diet had a beneficial effect and took him off all processed foods and artificial additives (as well as limiting a few natural ingredients along the way). That all helped and I think he’s grown out of much of the worst bits now. However, it is still accepted among our family and friends that he is a very intense little boy to be around. Even his preschool teacher has pulled me aside to let me know that she thinks there is something ‘amiss’. While he demonstrates a willingness to learn and seems intelligent, his emotions are a bit extreme. Also, he’ll often say that he cant do something and run off crying, when in fact, he can do it fine. Which of course is a problem with him starting Kindy after Xmas. For us, it is all very frustrating and tiring. Always sidestepping a potential outburst. Also, to put it bluntly, he is NEVER quiet. Seriously, no matter what the reward could be, he will not stop talking. Not even in his sleep. Leaving us all sleep deprived for 5 years now. He is insecure and cannot take any sort of change to our routines.
At first we thought that perhaps all little kids are like this and we feel the strain because we were being selfish or lazy. Then along came his little brother who really is normal. Then we thought his behaviour was because we just weren’t good enough at parenting him. But now, I think we’re both just exhausted and have tried everything we know to help him. Im very scared about taking him to the doctor about this, as I don’t want him to get labelled which could jeopardize him later. And we definately don’t want him on drugs after hearing so many terrible stories about them.
Any advice? How do schools deals with these kids and how effective is natural therapies on these conditions? Thanks.
barry jennings answers:
Hi there. I’m not a doctor but heres my advice.
I think you need to see a doctor. You already changed his diet & honestly, thats the most you can do.
Many people with ADD or ADHD still can lead full, healthy, successful lives. For example Justin Timberlake, Will Smith, Walt Disney, Michael Phelps, etc.
Many people can have it & still go on with their lives.
And as much as there are terrible stories, there are also good stories with great outcomes.
You just have to see the signs of how your children react to the medicine.
Schools usually would want your kids to see a doctor. If you skip the doctor part, then the school might treat your child in a special way. As it is, your son is already insecure, why make him go to a special class? What message do you think you’re giving him?
Check out the website in the source. There are multiple natural therapies. Everyone reacts to any type of treatment (natural or by drug) differently.
Hope you get some relief!
adult add – woman?
I just finished my Master’s and was recently diagnosed with adult ADD.
I’m hard-working and all. I’ve always done well academically though it takes me a lot longer to finish work than it takes others because I am very easily distracted. The rest of my life is not so great. I am the most disorganized person.
The major issues for me are organization, forgetfulness/bad memory and generally getting things done on time. This is probably going to be an issue with work and I’m very worried about it.
Also, my room is a disaster as it has always been. I find it embarrassing and I end up doing a lot to cover it up. My roommates never go into my room but I practically live in theirs. I NEVER finish any of my home projects. I can’t even figure out where things are supposed to be.
I was prescribed medication which I didn’t fill and eventually lost. I didn’t follow up with the specialist (affiliated with a local university and father of a friend) and screened the office’s calls until they stopped trying to follow up with me.
How do you go about training people to change their behaviors without medications? I’m not opposed to them. I just don’t think I’ll remember to take them like everything else. I’ve done the ADHD diet too. I’m not hyperactive though I tap my feet a lot and I have some issues with patience, but I think that’s for kids. It seems like a lot of the research available pertains to boys with ADHD.
Yeah. I have a greater appreciation for therapy as since I stopped going (I can no longer afford it), my life has become a big giant mess in terms of anger/patience and impulse control. It never helped with organization or memory though. I’m now depending on studies for treatment because I don’t have a lot of money and therapy simply is not an option.
The lowest rate for treatment with DMH is $50/hour IF I fall into their lowest bracket and I’m not sure that’s going to happen.
Let’s do the math:
Medication = $30 co-pay/month
Therapy/Dr. visits= $50/45 min session minimum
Meds will cost me $80/month. Therapy will cost me $200/month. If you’re able to afford therapy, that’s great. I was able to when I was in school. Now I can’t and I need to function so I’m going the medication route. Unless you’re going to pay for weekly sessions, I’ll stick with plan B.
barry jennings answers:
Drop your pride, and ask for help from the pharmaceutical company’s for your meds. Go to the nearest mental health clinic and ask for a sliding scale. Go to one or some of the Church’s and ask for a list of programs in the area.
Also you can get excellent help in the 12-Step programs; as they help you to talk about your problems, and get support that you need. Sometimes, these are all you need for therapy, as you have more than just one person to listen to you, then you find a sponsor, and this becomes the person you talk about your problems the most. The 12-Step meetings is what gives you strength, experience, and hope. You keep what you want from a meeting, and disregard the rest. The meetings are made up of principles rather than personalities. (these are free). Some of the ones that go to the 12-Step programs has the same problems as you do, like ADHD, and who else can help you any better than someone that has the same mental issues as you do? Also, ADHD has no boundaries! It affects male and female. However, it is more common for boys.There usually are many different 12-step programs than the one that I went to, but even the one for alcoholics will work for you if you really want the help.
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