How do I deal with my son who had ADHD and tends to be extremely emmotional?
I have a 6 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD. Now that he is on medication his hyperness has calmed some but he still has trouble focusing, especially with me and he cries at the drop of a hat. It drives my husband nuts and I have tried and tried to be as understanding as possible but I feel sometimes like he uses the crying just as a way to get me to side with him even when he is in the wrong. He will not listen to me whatsoever and tends to be out of control with me which has put a rift between us. How can I be a bit more strict with him, get him to listen to and respect me and still make him realize that I love him very much and he can come to me whenever he needs me. I’m afraid if I’m too hard on him he will think I don’t love him but I’m also scared that if I don’t stop the behavior now it will only get worse to the point of being irreversible. HELP!!!
barry jennings answers:
As a teacher, I often see understanding as a synonym for sympathetic, which means babying. I am not saying that you are doing this at all. Medicine is not for everyone or for every kid. It is not an instant cure, and for many kids, they need to tweak and reformulate to find the perfect match at first. A side of ADHD is rage. I would talk to a child psych for help in coping, in addition to a pediatrician. Sometimes the child psych can better explain what is going on in the child’s mind than the Dr.
As for him, he needs a strict schedule. He needs to know that this is going to happen at this time. And, it needs to be stuck to as much as possible. Maybe get a wipe off board and list the things that he needs to do. Obviously, no one is going to be able to offer the best advice on here because we are not there, we need the whole story. But, I do know one mom who would just put the camcorder on and for a few days she just videotaped the outbursts and behaviors for the Dr. To see the child in the home environment.
He needs praise too. Imagine going to work every day and just having your boss (his teacher) harp on you all the time – sit down, settle down, quiet down….you would get frustrated too. Get him into something he is good at – soccer, karate, tennis, etc. Sometime a coach can help with the respect without even knowing.
The last thing I see a lot, ESPECIALLY in the ADHD kids is a very poor diet. Too much processed foods, sugars, and juice. Try to give him more whole grains, no white breads. Avoid things like unbleached flour, red and blue dyes and processed junk food. I have had a few that I knew their mood according to what they had for breakfast. I know that my child gets amped on pancakes and syrup. But, if I make the whole wheat Aunt Jemima’s and use the sugar free syrup – no change, he is fine.
What are the long and short term effects of attention deficit disorder?
I am writing an english paper, and I’m not exactly one to turn to others first for information. This is just a bit serious, though. I have looked near and far for information on this disorder, as I’m looking for the facts described above, and I find things on ADHD. Granted, they’re not incredibly different, ADHD and ADD, but they are different, and my paper is not on ADHD. I can’t seem to find a good list of effects of this disorder. Any and all help would be extremely appreciated.
barry jennings answers:
Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is generally considered to be a developmental disorder, largely or entirely neurological in nature effecting 3-5 percent of the population. It is characterized by a persistent pattern of inattention and/or hyperactivity-impulsivity ADHD initially appears in childhood and manifests itself with symptoms such as hyperactivity, forgetfulness, poor impulse control, and distractibility. ADHD is currently considered to be a persistent and chronic syndrome for which no medical cure is available. While the majority of ADHD is believed to be genetic in nature, roughly about 1/5 of ADHD is thought to be acquired after conception due to brain injury either parentally or postnatal due to toxins or physical trauma.
According to a majority of medical research in the United States, as well as other countries, ADHD is today generally regarded to be a non-curable for which, however, some effective treatments are available. A wide body of evidence has shown that stimulant medication is the most effective way to treat the disorder. Methods of treatment usually involve some combination of medication, psychotherapy, and other techniques. Some patients are able to control their symptoms over time, without the use of medication. Within society, there is some skepticism if a diagnosis denotes a genuine impairment or disability. The symptoms of ADHD are not as profoundly different from normal behavior as is often seen with other mental disorders. Still, ADHD has been shown to be impairing in life functioning in several settings and many negative life outcomes are associated with ADHD.
ADHD is most commonly diagnosed in children and, over the past decade, has been increasingly diagnosed in adults. It is believed that around 60% of children diagnosed with ADHD retain the disorder as adults.
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