How do i get my special needs child to sleep byherself?
I have an aspie/asd/adhd daughter that suffers from extreme anxiety when i just let her “cry it out”. Any other special needs parents out there that have any ideas? Handcuffing or ducktaping her to the bed is not an option!
barry jennings answers:
Have you tried sitting with your child until she falls asleep? Like rubbing her back, or reading a bed time story. Those methods have worked for many of the special needs children I have virtually worked with.
Give them some “protectors” to help them get through the night. Some children do a great deal better when they have something to hang on to, and this is where a large stuffed animal that they can sleep with can go a long way. Another great way to let them feel safe and protected is to let different stuffed animals represent different members of their family, so sleeping with a certain bear or toy can be just like sleeping with mom.
Invest in some night lights. It can also go a long way towards banishing night terrors. For some children, the dark can turn a familiar room into a place that is very scary, and having a light that comes on in the dark can be instrumental to making the room seem friendly again. Another way to give them control over the situation is to give them a flashlight that they can keep by their bed.
It may not necessarily work the first night. Getting your child to sleep in their own bed may actually be easier than you think, and the best way to get there is to start thinking about solving whatever issues there may be. Establish a memorable bedtime routine. The routine does not need to be elaborate; however, it should be something your child looks forward to each night and considers a special time. This can be as simple as reading a favorite book in a special part of the room, having a bath to soothing music, eating a snack and then brushing teeth, singing a favorite song, saying a prayer, exchanging highlights of the day, or even a special bedtime kiss-n-hug ritual.
* Require your child to go to the bathroom just before bedtime. Sometimes its the need to go to the bathroom that then causes the child to wake and then want company.
* Don’t lie down with your child, or if you do, only stay for a brief time. You don’t want your child to think he/she has to have someone lay down with him for sleep.
* Establish the rule that your child will now sleep in his/her own bed and make no exceptions. Some parents report that it is helpful to build it into a celebration, such as “Now that you are starting kindergarten, you are expected to stay in your own bed every night” or “As a 4-year-old, you will get new privileges! One of those is the excitement of picking the toy you want to sleep with in your own bed every night.”
* Don’t weaken to crying or whining. If you do, your child wins. Tell your child you are not going to keep coming in for kisses, hugs, discussion, begging, or pleading. Stick to this. If your child leaves the room, simply re-direct the child back without discussion. Show no weakness, or your child will know that this behavior results in a change.
* Finally, even if you are totally exhausted or its an unseemly hour of the night, walk your child back to his/her room immediately if you receive a visitor. Don’t over-react or give to much attention; simply say, “The rules are that you sleep in your own bed.”
If you maintain consistency and the rules, your child will be sleeping in his or her bed throughout the night in no time. And, you and your child will both get improved shut eye and be better prepared to face the new day together! Good luck with everything! I wish you the best. 🙂
Why are psychotropic drugs never mentioned as a cause of shooting rampages?
Big-pharma makes billions on psychotropic drugs that state clearly in the warnings can cause suicide and violent acts. Virtually every single mass-shooter has been on these psychotropic drugs, but the corporate media and central government never seems to mention this. The weapon is always to blame.
Why does the central government and corporate media seldom mention that all recent mass shooters are on these psychotropic drugs?
barry jennings answers:
Because then people would question whether they should be giving them to their kids.
-I personally feel that much of the ADD and Adhd epidemic is just lazy parenting and/or weak children looking for an excuse to be weak and uninspired to succeed.
I’ve seen it waaaaay too often.
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